There are moments in which life, existence, puts you in front of traumatizing and frightening experiences in front of which you are almost always unprepared and each of you reacts in the way that is proper and possible.
As I have heard from you, it is also possible to perceive oneself as inside a black hole and to find oneself on an isolated shore, in an irreducible solitude in which it seems that nothing can serve to distract from the drama that is being experienced.
change
The ego and the endless updating of the self-image
What is the image of sé? It serves theIo to delude oneself to exist.
If the ego did not create this image with which to represent itself, it would have no element - according to him "palpable" - to be able to affirm that he is real, that he belongs to the world of physical reality.
Hence this is the need before the existence of the image that the individual has of himself.
As we have always said, the ego has within itself the weapons for its own destruction; here, in fact, this image, although necessary for the ego to strengthen itself and to convince itself of existing, is also the factor that induces the individual with a minimum of awareness and attention,
Be yourself and change in relationships
An important element in building a relationship is feeling equal.
The more there is the feeling, between two people, of being equal to each other, the easier it is for the relationship to last over time, build and be profitable for both.
The sense of being equal is given by the sensation that the component of the relationship has of being able to be himself as he is, in the same way that the other can be, therefore with the willingness to accept the beautiful and the ugly of the other, but also the willingness to show the beauty and the ugliness of oneself. This is the real way to be au pair. (Scifo)