You think theIo be the devil; nothing more wrong. L'Io it is neither good nor bad, it simply exists as a result of the various forces that come to the individual. This does not mean that whatever the ego causes you to do is wrong.
There are two aspects to consider in this situation: meanwhile, many things built by man in the course of his history, many of the most wonderful and most beautiful things, most full of love and so on, have been built under the pressure of the ego. ; secondly, you have to consider that what is important to recognize is your motivation, the ego motivation, not the action; because the action itself can have positive effects, it can be right,
me / identity
Crystallization reveals the attempt to hide from oneself
Crystallization: Moment of inner stasis of the embodied individual, which causes a blockage of the pushes towards theevolution and understanding. To get out of crystallization, sometimes the right stimulus coming from the vicissitudes of life or the internal one going back to the thrusts of consciousness is enough but, in cases where the individual is unable to get out of it, existence will be forced to resort to the extreme weapon , or suffering: in order to escape it, the ego is, in fact, forced to act and therefore to restart the interaction of the various components of the individual and of the life he is living, in search of a new equilibrium in which suffering is as little as possible.
Be yourself and change in relationships
An important element in building a relationship is feeling equal.
The more there is the feeling, between two people, of being equal to each other, the easier it is for the relationship to last over time, build and be profitable for both.
The sense of being an equal is given by the feeling that the component of the relationship has that it can be sé same as it is, in the same way in which the other can be, therefore with the willingness to accept the good and the bad of the other, but also the willingness to show the good and the bad about oneself. This is the real way to be au pair. (Scifo)