The child, especially the very small one, given his new physical structure and not having, we can say, still completely connected his new bodies (the astral body, the mental body) is more in direct contact with the spiritual world that he left from little; moreover, from a psychological point of view his Io it is in the process of being formed and is therefore not fully structured.
We know that the little child tends towards spontaneity, is open to experiences, is eager and sometimes even impatient to learn, but as he grows up you will notice that this freshness, this spontaneity, this openness is attenuated until it almost completely disappears; and gradually his personality it constitutes itself and solidifies, you will see that its first attributes are affected and in this way it moves away from Reality, Truth, Energy and Love.
This happens both because the bodies begin to intertwine and therefore new factors come into play that only serve to complicate the structure of the child's personality, and because adults come into play who, perhaps feeling like gods, tend to model that creature in their own image. and similarity, not to mention educators, who, for the mere fact of having studied, tend to stigmatize them, to generalize them, to generalize what, in my opinion, for no reason can be closed in rigid and, excuse me the term a bit strong, stupid schemes.
Let me give an example: if you give a scholar a graphic elaboration of a child of a few years - or perhaps to make the experiment more interesting for more scholars, you will notice that each of them gives a different interpretation from the other - you will hear the most hilarious nonsense, hilarious at least for me, that on my side I can see some things that cannot be seen on the other.
The one who interprets, for example a projective test, he does not realize that he is interpreting what the possible "patient" wanted to mean, he does not realize (he really cannot) that he is doing the projection himself and precisely at the moment in which he interprets.
You will hear the greatest absurdities - I said - and, with a certain sadness, I also have to say the most worrying affirmations to modify at all costs, that personality that is being formed.
What vivifies children:
- ancestral memory of love and energy,
- closer contact, more direct with these forces, is thus tampered with, manipulated, sometimes even for selfish purposes, exploited in some cases and miserably suffocated.
If you want at least a small part of that memory of Love, of energy, to remain intact, take into consideration the fact that those strange creatures that are children have a personality that is one and different from that of other children, and in that such, precisely because it is unique, is unknowable even if it is complementary to the others.
Therefore respect their individuality, and do not throw your problems, your fears, your feelings of guilt, your anxieties on them, let them grow naturally: existence, life, love, they already think (and you I assure you much better than you can) to create for these little ones the experiences necessary for their maturation.
Do not get away with the strangest fantasies from reality just because it frightens you, do not stuff them with absurd concepts whose existence has the only justification of tranquility or the silence of your conscience.
They will become adults, of course, they will certainly grow up and will no longer be as they were when they were very small in direct contact with Love and Energy, but if you try not to shape them according to your will and your desires, according to your personal needs, according to your purposes to compensate for your frustrations, they will certainly have, I can assure you, a few more glimmers of light than your parents have allowed you to have.
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It is therefore very important to try to maintain a sense of sincerity, spontaneity, freshness in relationships with children.
In my experience as a "voyeur" (in fact from my plane of existence I had the opportunity to observe the world of men and their behaviors for a long time) I noticed that many educated, educated mothers, even graduates, have made more mistakes in the education of own children of the ignorant housewife who had only the first grade.
Why this?
Because the educated, educated mother, full of theories here and there (and here the names are many, even too many honestly), ended up confusing what was her natural, instinctive part of a mother with the things they said. the luminaries of pedagogy (who then had not even had a child in their life!), while the ignorant mother, the one who - at the limit - found herself a mother by chance without knowing how she became one, immediately tried for his creature something different and has continued to keep with this creature that invisible umbilical cord that suggests all the right answers to every problem, an umbilical cord that should in any case continue to bind a mother with her child.
And yes, as exaggerated as it may seem, I assure you that the educated, educated, graduated mother, worried because her child does not put the tooth between the sixth and eighth month (as all the childcare manuals that are respected indicate) is very capable of taking her baby to the "surgeon" to have his gums cut, while the ignorant mother, the one who, perhaps, did only the first grade says between sé and himself: “Sooner or later he will wear it!”. And how right the second is if only it were possible for you to guess.
If you only think that everything that happens to you is predetermined and governed by the Universal Law, you could understand that even the retarded growth of a tooth has its own motivation that goes beyond the physiological reasons of the individual: I remind you that everything that happens in the physical world, in physical matter, everything that happens to a physical body, from its birth, is necessarily linked to evolutionary needs.
I had stated that children, especially the very small ones, are the most spontaneous people, the most open, the simplest and the most natural and can only be treated in the same way as they present themselves to others.
So what must this relationship with those creatures be, if not that of being just as spontaneous, sincere, just as natural?
One thing is certain: when you are faced with a child of three, four, five years and he, with his spontaneity, asks a particular question, which can be an example of "how are children born" (which always puts adults in crisis), if you start to think: "Ah, So-and-so would say so, but that other said it must be done this way, but that other still said that it is better to act like this!" (and if you look carefully, they are always ways different from each other, if not even in contrast with each other), then you can never give anything to that creature who is expecting something from you, but if you you could answer her as instinctively, of course, as she comes to you at that moment, regardless of whether what is said falls within the canons of pedagogy and official psychology, then truly, you would be able to lend a hand to that creature, not disappointing her expectations .
And there is nothing worse than disappointing a child's expectations. Francesco
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When he talks about the educated mother who can do even more damage than the ignorant mother, that parent also comes to mind who feels impregnated with "truth" because he takes a "spiritual journey" that never questions ... that child has no escape routes .
I understand Francesco perfectly. Of course, filling the child with expectations is clipping his wings.
It is always very difficult to relate with children, with children, with pupils. Certainly, it is fundamental to try to allow oneself to be conditioned as little as possible by one's own needs and therefore create the conditions to be as empty of oneself as possible and open to listening to the other.
I only read today.
Beautiful teaching, I mold it.
Thank you!