You are used to going looking for the happiness far and outside, in what existence presents to you: observe what disturbs your tranquility in the course of your days and try to change the state of things that do not satisfy you or do not suit you around you.
What we tell you is not to act on the external world, but to seek that balance, that happiness that you expect from others or from the world, within you.
Yes, I know, that this "seeking happiness within oneself" is not an easy and totally understandable teaching, yet I assure you that it is possible to follow it.
How to do it, where to start? This you insistently ask because, undoubtedly, all of you desire, hope, seek happiness, and find yourself powerless to observe within yourself trying to apply that "know yourself" that we have proposed to you several times, groping in that chaos of doubts and uncertainties that you find within yourself and that you are unable to dissolve.
Where to start, therefore, what is one of the most valid and main elements to look for in order to get to know oneself and, therefore, get one more step next to happiness? Rodolfo
The problem, therefore, is not that of modifying the world in the image and likeness of what the individual desires, so that he feels satisfied, gratified, but that of modifying oneself according to one's desire for happiness.
As his brother Rodolfo pointed out, all of you know the teaching of 'know thyself', all of you, animated by good will and good intentions, have set out more than once to try to get to know each other and the darkness has not dissipated, indeed the more often than not the darkness has become even deeper, leaving you immersed in a feeling of helplessness that is really difficult to accept and naturally, in this way, increasing your unhappiness.
Let us try, then, to provide you this evening with a small thread of the problem so that you can grasp this thread and, by clinging to it and climbing along it, you will be able little by little to find all the other hanks that are inside you.
The first thing to do, to try to do, at least, is being able to accept yourselfYour unhappiness, creatures, as well as that of almost all men, arises above all from the fact that you do not accept yourselves as you are.
This is not a new thing either!
You realize that you don't accept yourselves, sometimes at least. However, it is still too vague: this is because you would like to start, for the acceptance of yourself, not from your source, not from what is closest to you, but from the side you show to others.
I'll explain. To begin to accept oneself it is necessary, first of all, accept your physical body.
Do you think you accept your physical body, creatures?
If that were the case, regardless of what health problems may be, dietary treatments would not be so fashionable.
If that were the case, you wouldn't worry all the time about how you are dressed.
If so, it would be enough for you to comb your hair in the morning without thinking about hairdressing hairstyles.
If so, you'd be satisfied with a simple dress instead of a designer dress.
If that were the case, you wouldn't put on, I don't know, eye shadows, lipsticks, background shades and on and on and on, because if you accepted yourself as you are you would not need to mask your face to look better than you are. Right?
Instead, the individual always tends to cover up what he thinks is not physically right for himself. Now, by this, I certainly don't mean that each of you has to walk around naked in the streets, in order to prove that you have no problems with your physical body!
Also because - always remember - teaching must always be seen in a double perspective: that which concerns the individual and that which concerns the individuals around him.
However, it is necessary, in fact, to be able to accept your physical body, so as not to feel embarrassed if your hands sweat when shaking a person's hand, for example; do not feel embarrassed if, for some reason, you cannot walk like a model ... feel, therefore, at ease, because feeling comfortable in the movements means being sure that your physical body is exactly as it needs to be either, and that no physical body is more beautiful or uglier than another, beyond those ideal patterns that vary, as cultures vary over the centuries.
On the other hand just see theevolution of the typical ideal of beauty over the last century to see how we went from a prosperous beauty to a very lean beauty in the short span of a few decades, and this indicates to you that there is no real "beauty in sé”, Of the object, but the beauty is in whoever looks at the object.
And if you realized that your body is as beautiful as that of others, in the meantime you would begin by removing your awkwardness, by not feeling envious of the bodies of others and you would also manage not to put yourself in competition with the physical being of others.
And if you succeed in doing this it would already be a step forward in accepting yourself. Scifo
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It is not easy to escape the conditioning of a society that wants us all to be “cool”. However marginal the need for recognition may be, it is easy to fall into judgment, personal first of all, which leads us to feel inadequate and which leads us to hide our defects. I also wonder if aesthetic research (when you don't exaggerate!) Is not also a symbol of respect for oneself and that aspiration to beauty, inherent in every human being (taking into account that the concept of beauty is very subjective) . I believe that this second aspect has deeper roots than the simple need for pleasure. We are all attracted to what is beautiful. I think it is important not to let ourselves be influenced by the flattery of a world centered on exteriority and superficiality, but to look for the beauty that each of us inevitably has.
I think of physically handicapped friends and wonder how difficult it can be for them to accept themselves. However, I observe that sometimes they seem more peaceful than other able-bodied people. Accepting oneself presupposes a good level of disidentification. Thank you.
"If you could do this it would already be a step forward in accepting yourself"
As is true! And in any case this does not contrast, as Natasha says, with our ancestral search for beauty, intended for me as harmony of forms, which goes beyond the evolution of the concept of beauty.
Personally I do not let myself be influenced by the aesthetic form, but certainly, as Natasha writes, the concept of beauty, of harmony is inherent in us and it is good for everyone to know how to find and / or accept beauty in themselves.
An age-old question is the acceptance of one's physical body ... yet I am increasingly aware of the function it plays from the point of view of the understandings to be acquired in this existence. I observe the steps forward in order to perceive compassion ...
The physical body is a constituent of being and I believe that the degree of evolution of the person is also expressed through it, in the sense that the external part speaks of the internal one. It is the expression of the beauty that inhabits our depths, each with its particularities, in the harmony of the whole.
This is the real beauty !!
Of this post I will keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder….