Habit and boredom in the love relationship

It is said that - many times - the end of a love relationship is due to boredom and habit: this is a saying that can be heard more than once in the speeches of those who find themselves living or being in contact. with the end of a love relationship.
Boredom and habit are therefore indicated as the cause of the cessation of something that previously seemed to be perfect, lasting and enduring.
Io I tell you that it cannot be like this: when an affection is truly lasting and lasting, there can be no boredom, there can be no habit.

If then, in a relationship of love, boredom and habit are considered as such when there is a certain knowledge in the physical carrying out of these relationships; that is, if individuals now know each other so well that they can perceive and know the affection that can be done to each other, this I guarantee you, children, that it cannot be something that leads to boredom or habit: everything 'at the most to serenity and an affection that dissolves into a different sweetness.
Certainly, a relationship that has lasted for years and years will no longer have the physical ardor it had in the beginning; however boredom and habit will not infiltrate - or should infiltrate - what is a true relationship of understanding.
And this is even more valid, when the people in relationship with each other are people who have found themselves in contact with a teaching like that of the Masters, and who have followed their words for years.

Boredom and habit, for the one who follows the teaching, cannot exist: in fact, the one who knows the teaching must know himself; he who knows the teaching must relate to others; the one who knows that the experience, more often than not, is transformed by one's perceptions, if it wants (if "really" it wants), if it does not use boredom and habit to justify its intemperance or its wrong behaviors, it will always find something to discuss, from to say, to speak; because he will always find - not only outside himself, but also in himself - a thousand and a thousand new reasons to discover, which will never allow him to feel boredom.

In fact, what is boredom, by definition, if not the monotonous repetition of something, which becomes - in the long run - cloying?
But I tell you that you are never the same as yourself in any moment of your life, and therefore, there is no reason why you can really get bored.
It is true, however, that yours resorts to the use of boredom, uses the excuse of being bored and of being a habit, to give up fighting, to avoid doing what it should do, to find a thousand and a thousand inventions to escape to their responsibilities.
For this, our children, I recommend (and I wish you) to always find, in you, that something different, and new and exciting, which will make your life, continuously, alive and lively and never closed in on itself. itself. Rodolfo

Habit!
When does the habit take over?
How often do you hear people talking between sé and say: "The relationship of love with another person, with my wife or husband, with my girlfriend or with my boyfriend was interrupted mainly because by now it was becoming a habit, and there was no more nothing that could keep us united ».
Well, I can say that when the habit takes over, in ninety percent of cases, it takes over because the love relationship was not there, in reality.

When a relationship of love is established between two individuals, whether embodied or not, it cannot be subject to habit: habit is something that repeats itself, that continues to repeat itself always the same. Instead you know, creatures, that each of you is different and changes, transforms, minute by minute and therefore whoever is next to you, if he really loves you, if he really knows how to observe you for a moment without wanting to find justifications, will always find something of different in you, and therefore the habit necessarily, is averted.

In fact, I repeat, habit can only occur when the relationship and interest in the other individuality is not such as to make one see, and not only perceive but even seek, in the other its changes. And therefore there is the unwillingness to adapt to these changes and therefore to transform, to change oneself, in order to try to keep up with the changes of the other in order to be a mutual, mutual stimulus.

This is for ninety percent of the cases. It remains out of ten percent of cases in which the habit arises even if there is actually a relationship of love.
But wait, creatures: we call it habit, but in reality habit is a term that is given in these cases by the individual to rationalize something that he cannot understand. In these cases, in fact, what is labeled as a habit, and which perhaps from the external behavior seems to be precisely such, is actually fear!

Fear of being discovered, fear of having to open up, fear of getting to the point that there will be no way out and will have to show itself as it is, fear of taking on one's responsibilities, of accepting them, of carrying them on to the end, fear of the moment of having to give and not just being able to take, fear - in short - of really looking at one's own reality in the face.

Here, then, that this ten percent of times, the individual prefers to react as if it became a habit. And then, at that point, he settles down, crystallizes in a situation, waits for things to pass, loses his enthusiasm, loses his will and little by little he lets himself go.
This is natural to happen, but it is also normal and natural that it is your job to break the crystals when the crystals form.

Whoever really feels the sense of the miracle and finds in himself the strength to renew it every day, will find in himself no more crystals but pearls! .
Those who cling to crystals, on the other hand, will themselves be transformed into crystals and will remain along the way waiting for an opportunity that, as was said long ago, perhaps will be returned as a talent, or perhaps, more likely, will be a talent that does not will be returned more! Scifo

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