Insecurity and the need to be loved

The theme of insecurity is undoubtedly an important topic for the life of all of you, as it is one of the elements that accompany all your moments of all your lives.
A question to ask is the following: "But who is it that is insecure?". The most expert among you of our words will already have the answer ready; I can only say that the part of the individual who feels insecurity cannot be other than theIo.
Now it remains to understand why the ego perceives this insecurity.
You see, everything you lead in the course of your lives has the same common root and is juggled, direct, connected to that type of vibration which, coming from the Absolute, forms a sort of call that has the function of inducing each of you. towards the search for the deepest part of sé same.
We have called these types of references, coming directly from the Absolute and which in some way constitute the fabric on which Reality is built, with the term "archetypes"; and the basic archetype, from which all the others branch out a little at a time, is the archetype of Love.
You will say: "What does all this have to do with insecurity?".
It has a lot to do with it, because all of you - with your mistakes, your pettiness, but also your beauties at times - continue on your existential journey, always looking for love; always trying to get love from others. Of course, also to give love to others, but since in the middle there is that blessed I, here is that the first part of your search is aimed more than anything else at obtaining love from others.
Now, the real, real insecurity, the important one - not that mask that you put on in the course of your life and that you manifest with hesitation, or with sudden courageous advances - the real one, the deepest one within you, is given by fear. not to be loved by others: this fear belongs to the ego.
The ego's attempt to appear lovable is evident, but it is equally evident that the attempt to provoke the love of others can frighten the ego itself, and here are the fears in behaving, the hesitations, the uncertainties, here are the insecurities again. more evident in cases in which, since the birth of the individual, there is this feeling of not having been able to be loved, perhaps by one of the parents who, for one reason or another, for his or her needs or, in any case , for the cases of life, he could not give his son or daughter that feeling of being loved that is so important to a developing creature.
This may be something that marks the constitution of one's own personality, it can be an element that causes the individual to feel frustrated, or to blame himself for not having been able to make himself loved by others; and here, then, that - depending on the individual's inner and even genetic situation - there will be the implementation of countermeasures to obtain from others what is believed to be the love they owe us.
This, of course, involves a speech of great responsibility; if parents realized how important it is for a child to feel loved, they would often manage not to increase, not to create the sense of inattention and disaffection that children sometimes feel; but alas, far from criticizing the behavior of parents - since I know very well that each individual has their needs, their experiences, and in turn, parents also try to be loved in the way they think they understand may be the right one - you have to wait for everyone to find the key to their problem.
The important thing is to get to a certain point in one's life and stop giving, or blaming others, because while it is true that the lack of an affectionate, but truly affectionate, heartily affectionate parent can be felt in a decisive way. for the creation of his own personality by the child, it is equally true that the child, however, has - if he wants - the possibility of modifying his inner condition.
And how is this possible? What is the way to give security to those who feel insecure, to make the one who believes, or thinks, or thinks he does not receive love from others aware that in reality love receives it, even if not from those who are expecting to receive it ? Scifo

There is only one way, children and brothers, and the technique that can be used to obtain this result is not just that of being present to oneself.
But what is it that we really mean by "being present to oneself"? In our opinion, being present to oneself means being able in some way to operate a split within oneself between the individual who acts and interacts with others and the individual who, at the same time, observes what the other part of himself is doing; it means paying attention to what one does without however stopping doing; because doing, however it may be, always has great importance for the growth of the individual.
Being present to oneself therefore means putting into action the knowledge of oneself through observation, in such a way as to arrive at specifying what has been understood, what has been understood, and what has not been understood and, finally, to realize that one's insecurity can be traced back to precisely this: to the deeper inner feeling of what one has understood, or of what one has not understood.
It is what has not been understood that gives insecurity and it is what has been understood that, instead, flowing spontaneously, gives the possibility to behave with ease, spontaneity and with what you usually define "security", but not that security that somehow it makes its way onto others, it is imposed as an external facade, but that security that gives tranquility, serenity, fluidity in action, in behavior and - what matters most - absence of pain. Rodolfo

If we asked ourselves, creatures, how it is and who it is, and why it is the insecure person, let's see for a moment to clarify the other aspect of the medal, that is to clarify how the person who is really safe should be, not the one who wears. a safety mask that often hides an extreme fragility, which corresponds to a shield that is put in front so as not to be hurt: then, in order not to be injured, the best defense becomes the attack and putting oneself above the fight.
The person who has no insecurities is not this; the person who has no insecurities - as we understood from what his friend Rodolfo said earlier - is the one who acts spontaneously, who does not impose what he thinks to be right but proposes it as a hypothesis; is not the person who gets torn to pieces by lions in the arena, but the one who, in order to show that he has understood the teaching of love of Christ, instead of being torn apart by lions - who is not very productive, if not for the lions themselves - implement the teaching and apply it throughout their life.
Finally, the person who is sure, creatures, is simply the one who manages to put into practice, in daily life, what he has understood. Scifo