Man, in his life, laboriously advances among the obstacles scattered along his path and to help himself, to give himself incentive, a push to move forward (because very often, otherwise, the desire to stop would make the good will to continue succumb). it sets a goal to reach, stages on which to model the fabric of one's existence.
Sometimes it happens, however, that goals are lost along the way, that they seem to move away or blur with distance, instead of becoming clearer and closer to every action that passes; and then how does man react?
There are those who stop embittered without finding the strength to continue, giving up that goal, setting yet another one to replace it.
There are those who continue to trudge along that kind of Calvary that seems to lead to the conquest of his goal.
There are those who start running, regardless of where they put their feet, in the hope of shortening the road.
There are those who swear at who or what has put their much-desired goal out of their immediate reach.
Which of all these acts right?
He who renounces the goal and replaces it, it can also be right, since it means that the goal he had set himself was not the one that actually interested him. But, beware: often the renunciation is not reasoned, it is not felt by the conscience of the renouncer, who realizes that the mistake was his own, as he was the wrong choice of that goal. It simply happens that he abandons her out of impatience, because he does not know how not to expect everything and as soon as possible, because he does not know how to taste the sweetness of waiting, because he does not know how to take advantage of the tiring conquest, the teased ingenuity, the will stimulated to improve their efforts.
He who continues to trudge laboriously he can also be right, because it means that the choice of his destination was, for him, more than just. But, beware: perhaps it would be worthwhile for him to stop for a moment to meditate on why the goal has become more difficult to conquer, to stop for a moment to evaluate whether it was not really his action that made him deviate along a path apparently similar to a shortcut, but in reality it was such as to move him away - instead of bringing him closer - to the intended goal. It would be better, that is, if he stopped to understand if it is really the goal that has moved away from him, or if the opposite is more true.
He who starts running only in the hope of first achieving the goal he aspires to, can he be right if his steps are firmly guided by his full awareness of acting in the best way. But, beware: very often the breathlessness of running, of speed, leads to the clouding of consciousness so that the smallest pebble may be enough to cause a ruinous fall that will cost a much more serious and dangerous waste of time, than if the proceeding were been more cautious and shrewd.
He who swears against the person or the fact that they held him back could he be right? No, in this case there is not even an infinitesimal possibility that he is right. In fact - even if it is comfortable and satisfying for oneself, to attribute the cause of failure only to others - the responsibility for not achieving a predetermined goal is never only external; and from a serene and impartial evaluation of one's actions this is always evident.
If a brother of yours causes a departure from your goals, ask yourself first of all: what have I done io to help him not to do this? And that despite knowing that, without my help, there was a good chance he would do what he did?
And again: have I been free from mistakes myself or have I made mistakes that have contributed to causing what happened? And again: was I as close to the goal as it seemed to me or was mine just an illusion, a hope, an appearance rather than a reality?
All this should make you meditate, it should put at least a minimum doubt about yourself: I was right on my way to the goal or, to do before, I threw away along the road the stick that helped me so much in my progress. and on which I had written, so as not to run the risk of ever forgetting it: Altruism, Love, Charity? Weather
Thank you. It makes us understand how fundamental is the incessant work of self-analysis and the abandonment of the logic of complaining, of the victim complex
Thank you.
Knowledge and awareness. I agree with Paolo, thanks!
Very nice. It helps us to see things from more and more points of view and to understand that one-sidedness is always wrong. Even when the answer seems to be one, and maybe it really is that, there may be something true even in the opposite answer, perhaps something infinitesimal, a residue. But that also needs to be worked on.
thank you
I also agree with Paolo! The resolution of the obstacle is not always immediate, there the fatigue makes itself felt, fatigue that produces its fruits.