As you know, the form you incarnate at present is the most complex form among the many that you have incarnated in your various incarnations, in your evolutionary path; and when you look at something about your being now, you should try to look at it taking into account the many possibilities, the many directions in which it can be observed. You have spoken tonight of “judge not”; the “judge not” is one of the most difficult teachings within the ethical teaching that has been brought to you and it is difficult because none of you, then, in the end, has a very precise, fixed, sure idea of what is meant by the term ” to judge”; so much so that you use different ways to say the same thing: criticize, make me an opinion, and so on, putting everything in the same cauldron while, actually, are different facets of the same action. Moti
Without a doubt, creatures, human beings can not help but to judge; assuming that for “judging” is meant to form an opinion of the relationship between himself and what is outside of him, or between the individual and what he is experiencing; be this a social situation, be it an interpersonal relationship.
Your whole life is made up of an unbroken chain of judgments, as long as you open your eyes in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror – and already judge yourself – to get to when you close those eyes and maybe before fall asleep, think back to what happened during the day and lose a few moments (and it would be good that you did it more often!) commenting on – and then judging – what you experienced during the day.
So – I repeat – it is impossible for the human being not to judge. So, what don’t you have to do? How should our “do not judge” be interpreted in the most precise way if we ourselves are telling you that you can not help but judge, confusing your ideas a bit? Scifo
The fact is that when you try to have an opinion on others, you almost always express a verdict on them; you do not make an observation trying to be objective using information that you know well, but express a verdict, more often negative, on other people.
This is perhaps the wrong element in judging. The reasons why you should not express any verdict are manifold and are evident from the many things we have told you over the years; how can a verdict be issued without knowing what the motivations of the other individual were? How can one judge someone guilty if one does not know why he did what he was charged with? How can one arrogate the right to judge someone else when one does not have a clear conscience – most likely – of the same guilt attributed to the other?
As you pointed out, this is a point to keep in mind in your making judgments about other people. Since others are here to act as a mirror, what you notice in them is something that also resonates in you; only the fact that you notice that particular and not another, that behavior and not another, means that it has aroused in you reactions, emotions that, therefore, somehow find resonance within you. Rodolfo
Hence, from the judgment issued against others it is possible to go back to the judgment of oneself; and you have highlighted this, you have not understood it but, at least, “known”; certainly, the effort represented by the attempt to overcome the ego, which wants to put itself above the others, is always so strong that it ends up leading you to issue a verdict, becoming judges who do not participate in the sin of others. Now, the “judge not” becomes different when the human being is observed in the relationship with others or is observed in the relationship with others within the society in which he is living.
It is evident that, in order to lead a social life, a person must try to comply with certain rules – right or wrong that they are – put in place to achieve a useful, pleasant, and satisfying coexistence for all individuals. For this purpose it is also equally evident that in the workplace one is led to make judgments about his colleagues knowing who can be trusted to carry on the work and who is not 100% reliable and therefore can create problems, and so on.
Now, these judgments should necessarily be based as much as possible on real data of behavior of the individual, without taking into account his possible motivations – because, in this case, if we were to take into account all the motivations according to which an individual does something, anyone would be excused and justified – but, with the intent not to damage many other individuals, make a judgment and keep it in mind when we evaluate the people with whom we conduct social life and, perhaps, a work activity. Agree on this?
Of course, when we talk about interpersonal relationships – and in this case, we talk about relationships with the people closest to you, people who experience emotional, mental, loving experiences with each of you – it’s no longer a “cold working relationship”, a cold utilitarian relationship in the name of the greater good for society, but instead consists of an exchange between people. Scifo
And the judgment, our sons, should be interpreted primarily as a way to carry out an exchange: “I think you, my friend, have a problem of some sort; maybe I’m wrong thinking of knowing your problem. Maybe I’m wrong in the way I try to help you, however, according to the opinion that I inevitably made of what your needs are, I can – and I must – try to meet you and make you understand what you should do, in my opinion, to change your way of being, which I believe, in that case, is wrong “. Moti
“In my opinion”, you always forget these words in issuing your judgments. Your judgment, usually, is final, is absolute; you are all “Solomon” who have the truth in their hands and who do not understand why others do not receive it as a grace, even feeling perhaps enlightened for your judgments on them!
In short, judging is very often identified with a great lack of humility on the part of those who judge; and this, in a relationship between people – as you will remember we told you that the true relationship is all about give and take – can not be, in the end, harmful. Scifo